I came across this picture while on Facebook and I’ll admit it made me laugh. I appreciate the sarcasm and sadly I’ve often thought the same thing. it made me ask the question “What is the real issue with Gay Marriage?” As I thought about it, I broke it down into several parts:
1. Is it about the sanctity of marriage? The holy union brought together by God that no man shall tear asunder. If that is the case why aren’t Christian’s more outraged about the joke that has become marriage? Britney Spears was married for 55 hours. While no Christian would claim her to be a moral standard for anything, I don’t recall hearing Christian’s calling for sweeping legislation similar to the one above that would change the way people approach marriage. Even among Christians, the divorce rate isn’t any lower than the secular world. So is preserving “Holy Matrimony” really the issue? If so, why aren’t Christian’s doing more on a broad scale?
2. Maybe it’s the establishment of what is a “Family”. But is that really an argument with so many cases of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse by both Christian and non-Christian traditional families? Who then can set the definition of what a functional family really is? And you really can’t use the argument “gay families will make gay kids” because there’s not valid study that proves that. If there is, please post in the comments because I can’t find it.
3. Is it the definition of “Marriage”? That definition and ownership of the “marriage” title is debatable. Is it an ordination of the church? If so, why do you need a marriage license issues by the state? If the state owns it, why can’t they grant civil unions to anyone? How did it become a religion issue? And if you were to argue that America is founded on Christian morals and we enforce laws based on the Bible, why then do we get offended at Sharia law?
4. Is it the acceptance of homosexuality as a lifestyle?
If I were to pick one, I’d probably say #4 is the answer. Many Christian’s are split on the Gay Marriage debate and Rachel Held Evans recently wrote an excellent piece on the two positions of Christians to the issue. The acceptance of homosexuality is what Christian’s have the biggest problem. It’s where the “love the sinner, hate the sin” hits a dead end. Deep down I don’t think Christian’s see it as a civil rights issue, family issue, or sanctity of marriage. It’s about tolerating something the Bible spells as sinful and is very foreign to many. But is that the right response?
Christian’s over the years have come to abolish slavery and segregation (remember the Bible was once used to promote slavery), accept multi-racial families, and accept divorce. Is gay marriage the next phase in Christian evolution?